Wednesday, May 15, 2013

Wedding Guest Etiquette

It is wedding season, and you do not want to be "that" guest!
Here are some tips on what NOT to do as a guest to a wedding!  

* #1 Most important rule as a wedding guest... Don’t drink too much! You don't want make a fool of yourself, or do anything to embarrass the bride and groom. You are there to celebrate the bride and groom, it is not a party for you to get as drunk as possible.

* Don't dip your finger in either wedding cake, or let your children! They spent a lot of money on their cakes, and no one wants to eat a cake your dirty fingers have been in, and no one wants to see finger holes.

* Don't wear an ostentatious, loud, provocatively, or over the top dress as a guest. Make sure that you dress for the occasion, if it doesn't state it on the invitation, ask the couple. It is always better to overdressed than under dressed. 

* Don’t be late, that's rude. If you are running late, stand in the back until the ceremony begins, and after the bride has walked down the aisle.Walk quietly to the last seat in the back, and sit down. That is not the time to be searching for your friends, you can last thirty minutes without them. If the invitation says 5, be there at 4:30pm.

* Send a wedding gift before hand, bring it to a shower, or send it after. The bride and groom don't want to have to worry about finding someone to take it with them.

* If you can't make it to the wedding, send a gift still, or at least a card.
* Don’t bring a guest, unless your invitation allowed you to invite someone. If you plan on bringing a guest make sure you write that on the RSVP. If it's a last minute decision, call the bride or groom and get their approval.
* Pay attention to the invitation details, if they suggest not bringing children, or address it to the mother and father, not to "The Davis Family" that usually is a polite way of saying they don't allow children.
* Don't wear white or ivory
* If there are assigned tables, SIT AT THAT TABLE! The bride and groom took the time to plan out the seating for a reason, please respect their wishes. 

* Don't forget to RSVP to the bride and groom on time. There is a reason they do this, and a lot of money is spent on each guest. You don't want them spending extra money for no reason. (It can cost $70-100+ each guest for food and alcohol alone)
* If the wedding is a buffet style, get small plates of food, don't pile your food high.
* Don't talk or laugh during the ceremony. It can wait.
* Don't bring any drama, or start any drama and bring the vibe of the special day down. You don't want to be the one to bring down someone down on the happiest day of their life.
*  Don't show up for just the reception!
* Don't stand or have your phone out during the ceremony. Especially don't be taking pictures, that is why they hired a professional photographer. Save all your picture taking for the reception.


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